“Be wild; that is how to clear the river. The river does not flow in polluted, we manage that. The river does not dry up, we block it. If we want to allow it its freedom, we have to allow our ideational lives to be let loose, to stream, letting anything come, initially censoring nothing. That is creative life. It is made up of divine paradox. To create one must be willing to be stone stupid, to sit upon a throne on top of a jackass and spill rubies from one’s mouth. Then the river will flow, then we can stand in the stream of it raining down.
“The way to maintain one’s connection to the wild is to ask yourself what it is that you want. This is the sorting of the seed from the dirt. One of the most important discriminations we can make in this matter is the difference between things that beckon to us and things that call from our souls. Nowhere can this be seen more clearly than in the choice of mates and lovers. A lover cannot be chosen a la smorgasbord. A lover has to be chosen from soul-craving. To choose just because something mouthwatering stands before you will never satisfy the hunger of the soul-self. And that is what the intuition is for; it is the direct messenger of the soul.” - Clarissa Pinkola Estés, from Women Who Run With The Wolves
Now is the time to dive into your galaxy of uncertainty and the unknown, with your head clear and your heart bright. There is no room for hesitation, for that millisecond of fear could cost you all the dreams you deserve.
“We were born fully equipped to break free of past confining conditions that no longer serve us. And it is our destiny to do so. That inner impulse, that yearning to explore beyond the boundaries of our daily life permeates every living thing, and its voice perpetually whispers in our winner ear, ‘Grow, grow, grow…’ But, there is another voice that often speaks much louder, the voice of fear. It shouts, ‘No, no, no…Stay right where you are. While you may not like it, you risk nothing by staying put.’ But, unfortunately, that is the big lie. There is great risk in resisting the divine urge to grow.”
- Dennis Merrit Jones, from The Art of Uncertainty
Death is what makes us human.
We are spiritual beings moving on this Earth plane in these human shells. These physical bodies are alive, and so it is also natural for our bodies to eventually die. There are two common meditations on death in the Tibetan tradition. The first meditation focuses on the certainty and imminence of death, in order to motivate us to make the best use of our lives. The second meditation is a rehearsal of the actual death process, with the purpose to familiarize us with death and take away the fear of the unknown, thus allowing us to die skillfully.
Grief is not a feeling. Grief is a skill.
“Grief is not a feeling. Grief is a skill. And the twin of grief as a skill of life is the skill of being able to praise or love life, which means wherever you find one authentically done, the other is close at hand. Grief and the praise of life: side by side.” – Stephen Jenkinson
There are five stages of grieving, also known as the Kübler-Ross model. Applicable to grieving of all kinds, from relationship break-ups, to death and dying, referring to this model can be quite helpful during times of intense emotional work.
Stage 1: Denial
Stage 2: Anger
Stage 3: Bargaining
Stage 4: Depression
Stage 5: Acceptance
“There is a hole inside most of us and it’s in the approximate shape of a soul.” (Jenkinson)
Griefwalker: The Full Film (link to)
Griefwalker: The Trailer
“Watching a peaceful death of a human being reminds us of a falling star; one of a million lights in a vast sky that flares up for a brief moment only to disappear into the endless night forever.” – Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
A whimsical folly of a short film.
Password for film: theparisquintet
One side. One boundary.
The wondrous Mobius strip is a non-orientable surface with only one side and only one boundary component. If you run your finger along the surface of a Mobius strip, beginning at any point, you will end up exactly where you began without ever losing contact with the strip, thus the Mobius strip is a never-ending continuation of surface.
The heart journey models the Mobius strip in that it never loses its way home. The eternal looping and journey of the heart is where we all eventually find ourselves. So you see, you never have to worry about getting lost or taking the wrong direction, because this heart journey has only one side and only one path. It is non-orientable, non-discriminating, and non-judgemental. The Mobius strip of the heart is what continuously guides our love.
The beautiful thing is that the heart can never get lost. Our hearts are on auto-pilot and the destination is the Now. All we have to do is sit back, and take in all the emotions, all the highs and lows we experience, letting them rush through and over us. Knowing that we cannot go astray, we can relax into trust of the heart’s compass.